Who wins the battle between the vaginal and clitoral orgasm? No one! It’s a draw. Here is what you need to know. The difference in the two orgasms is based on where stimulation takes place, and thus the origin of the orgasm itself. The idea that vaginal orgasms are superior to clitoral orgasms dates back to Sigmund Freud and his work on hysteria. Let me be clear, there is no such thing as an inferior orgasm.

Most women, somewhere between 70% and 80%, report that direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris is necessary to achieve orgasm. Therefore, if you don’t have orgasms from intercourse alone you are in the majority. The only problem I can see is if you are not having orgasms at all. If this is the case, you need to take some time and get to know your body and its’ erogenous zones (hot spots).

There has been a long debate over the existence of the G-spot and its’ role in the vaginal orgasm. As recently stated in the Huffington Post, “Without a doubt, a discreet anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist,” said Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky. This article goes on to say that women who reported vaginal orgasms had more nerve endings and thicker tissue in the (would be) G-spot area.

It is hypothesized that the area known as the G-spot is just an internal continuation of the clitoris. I don’t think the question is whether or not the G-spot exists. Every woman’s body is different. From the size and shape of her labia to the uniqueness of her clitoris. Why would the internal structure of the vagina be any different? The question is, do you know your own body and how it response sexually? If not you should take some time to explore it. This exploration should not be exclusive to the genitals. The body has many hot spots: earlobes, elbows…toes?

Keep in the mind that the largest erogenous zone for a woman is her brain. It can  serve as an obstacle to arousal or it can facilitate the process. Women who have a lot on their minds may find it difficult to get in the emotional and mental space to achieve the level of arousal necessary to bring about an orgasm. Therefore, it is important to explore all of the potential sources of excitation and interference. This may include using the assistance of erotic material such as books or movies. In addition, sex toys can provide a boost in levels of stimulation. Find yourself a quite place, set the mood, create an environment that allows you to get lost in your own pleasure.

If you are curious about the area known as the G-spot take some time to familiarize yourself with it. There are several toys on the market directed at stimulation of this area, which is located at the top internal wall of the vagina (about two inches in). The G-spot orgasm is known to be very intense and produce female ejaculation. The fluid produced is not urine and is thought to come from para-urethral glands (Skene’s gland).

Anyone seeking to understand the female orgasm should have basic knowledge of the sexual response cycle and the physiological and subjective changes associated with it. The stages are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. If a person is checking their sexual temperature the stages would be as follows: warm, hot, hottest, and cool down. I will save a more in depth discussion of the sexual response cycle for another blog.