Our bodies and minds change as we get older. If you want to hold on to your sexual health then you must exercise both areas. When you stop using it (the genitals), you loose it (sexual responsiveness).

While regular sexual activity is a way to support sexual health and relationship health, there are other ways to keep your love long and strong.

If you are without a partner, self-pleasuring is a way to keep your body going through the stages of the sexual response cycle (excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution). Self-pleasuring can be enhanced by the use of videos, erotic books, fantasy, and toys.  The bullet gets my vote of approval for ease of use and efficiency.  Every women and couple should have a toy box.

Use your imagination to add a spark to your love life.  Go to a novelty store, try a new position, role-play, change the setting. Always ask each other questions about personal preferences. Things change over time. What aroused me today, may not do the trick tomorrow. Therefore, effective and consistent communication is imperative.

For those of you having partnered sex, mutual masturbation can aid in teaching one another about hot spots, as well as trigger a burning inferno. There are some men who disapprove of using toys. Consider a vibrator to be like having an extra hand. Sometimes you have to work real hard to get to the spot where she is ready to pop. A little assistance does not negate his efforts. Toys can never replace a hard body, gentle touch, masculine smell, strong and long love.

Both men and women should regularly do Kegel exercises. These exercises isolate and work the pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle). It can be found by stopping urine in mid-stream. The exercises, however, are done on an empty bladder. They should be done in sets of 3 or 4, 10-15 reps at a time. Just as when exercising any other muscle, it increases blood flow and improves sexual responsiveness, including: greater sexual control, stronger erections and more powerful orgasms!!!